Two Dreams is a wellness program led by Andrea G. Barthwell, MD, FASAM that provides individualized care for those who dream of recovering a healthy lifestyle.
NOTE FROM DR. B.
As we move forward on our path to recovery, I wanted to highlight the Ninth Step with The Ninth Step Promises from Alcoholics Anonymous 3rd ed., pg 83-84
- We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness.
- We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.
- We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace.
- No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.
- That feeling of uselessness and self pity will disappear.
- We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows.
- Self-seeking will slip away.
- Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change.
- Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us.
- We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us.
- We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves.
STEP OF THE MONTH
#9: “Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.”
In the preceding step of making a list of people we harmed, we took a step towards acknowledging that our addiction has caused pain. In step 9, we move forward—by making the direct amends wherever possible. This can be one of the hardest steps, as it forces us to face our past demons and rehash painful experiences. However, this is one of the most liberating steps—as our acknowledgement and initiative to be forgiven helps strengthen us and move us towards recovery. Before we can vocalize our condolences, we must first make a list of those we have hurt in order to reach out to them. We then must take the step to apologize to those we have wronged—either by phone call, letter or in person. This step reveals a part of our character—that we can acknowledge being wrong, in addition to wanting to rightfully change.
We also must put others feelings before ours, by realizing that hashing up painful memories may only injure others even more. We must not put the weight of our guilty conscience before the wellbeing of others, if we believe we have hurt them too much already. Most importantly, we must make amends to ourselves, realizing that we are capable of change. It is through this self-reflection and self-amendment that we can move forward and continue to right our wrongs.